Wednesday, 24 September 2014

# Cheliz story # depression

Dealing with depression: My Story.


This was very hard for me to write, I pray this reaches the person it was meant for.

P.S: I have not always been a slim person. Fat is all I have known all my life. I am still coming to terms with being called 'slim'.


March 2013. I had lost about 15kg here.

Psalm 55:22; Cast your burden on the Lord, And HE shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved. 

I remember when going out, gave me "high blood pressure". I got major anxiety whenever anyone invited us(hubby ans I) to a party. I would give 1000 excuses not to go. It was bad! Weddings, birthday parties, home visits, were a no-no for me. Never did i attend. Aside from church, through out 2012, i didn't attend any public function.

February 2013. I had already lost 7kg here.

It got really bad around the time I was pregnant with my second born. I was depressed to the bone. I constantly judging myself. There was a constant tape playing in my head:

  • OMG! Oh God why me?
  • "Now i will add extra 50kgs"
  • "By the time i give birth, i will be so big, i will look like a monster!!!!"
  • "I am ugly"
  • "I am not good enough"
  • "I am not worthy"
  • "I am fat!!"
  • "who will love me?"
  • "I don't have a job"
  • "I am a failure"
  • "I will never get to their level"
  • "I don't ever look good in anything i wear, why bother?"
Its a process, not magic. Lol!

So I though of ways to kill myself and end it all.  It was the feeling of not being good enough, failing my family, not meeting my goals, being judged by others. "Hmmm, She doesn't have a job and she went and got pregnant again"  Some people even said it to my face, "How you wan do am now, who will employ you?" But when God has a plan for you, no one can stop it, not even you. God moves, He moves trust me. When you call, He answers.


It took the Grace of God almighty and prayers for me to snap out of it. You know what? God sent help to me in form of 2 of my really good friends(and some others). They might not know it, but God used them. Hehehehe! God can use ANYONE to transform your life, trust me, and they won't leave you until they have fulfilled their mission. Lol! 

They kept on pushing me from different angles. So after delivery, I picked myself up, drafted new goals, first was to lose weight. I made plans, bought what i needed to buy and started. Here I am today, what a journey!! I never even knew I would be blogging, talk more of helping others lose weight. (fyi I hated blogs and the idea of it) 

It is not my doing, it is by the grace of God. God wants me to live and fulfill His purpose for my life, I am sure He wants you to live too. I discovered myself while losing weight. Yours could be something else. Dig deep! 

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Today by the grace of God, I am a changed person, a different mind set, I am still changing, fighting to be better.....

I took this pic last Saturday at my friends wedding.  Photo Credit: Lala Montana! Paparazzi toh pure!

Are you feeling depressed and sad about your weight or life generally?
  1. Pray about it.
  2. Allow friends and loved ones to help you.
  3. Get up, make plans, set realistic goals.
  4. Stay positive. Everything will be alright.
  5. Stay away from negative people, they will pollute you.
  6. If  you NEED to lose weight, then do something about it. You and only you can do that. 
  7. Exercise. 15 minutes of exercise a day will make a huge difference on how your day goes. Your body will release endorphines (the feel good hormones) You will be smiling all day.
  8. Try a healthy diet. Flush the bad and in with the new. Clean eating will lift your mood.
Have you ever dealt with depression? Please i would love to hear your story.

Shout out to 2 great women. ChiBonez and Phadis!!! May God bless you like never before. Amen.
God bless.
Cheliz.


33 comments:

  1. soo soo inspiring, sexy new you! i love you cheliz. thanks for this opportunity. i learnt soo many things through you. God is using you indeed. Keep it up darling May God bless you abundantly. kisses.

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  2. Thanks sweetpie! Amen. God bless you too dear.

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  3. Wow this came at d nick of time. So motivating. I'm determined now more than ever. It's never easy, but it'd be worth it... Tnks alot for this write up... Without u,this whole weightloss thingy wudnt hv happened.... We are indeed grateful... Tnks alot. Amanda

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    1. You are very welcome Amanda. Keep doing great dear. God bless.

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  4. Tochie darling, watching you go from being the biggest girl in the room to this amazing, darling, healthy transformation is breath-taking. From Primary to University and right here where you are, I am blessed that I have someone like you ,close enough to be an inspiration.

    For the battles you fought in silence to get to where you are today, I CONGRATULATE you girl!!!

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    1. Kiki luv! Thanks so much, i am blessed also to have have a dear friend like you. God bless you!

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  5. i really do relate to this as i was very slim before having kids and 3 short years and 2 pregnancies after i totally went from happy to very sad.At such a low time my husband couldn't tell me he loved me enough but i never loved myself, it took my mum saying 'whats the worst that could happen if you stop eating bread dodo and fried stews' and since then i have had a complete 360, I'm slimmer more disciplined happier and more determined to be whom GOD has called me to be. Great post love,unfortunately Nigerians don't like to use the word depressed but its not a scary word just a temporary situation.

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    1. Thanks Tola. Its sad that we Nigerians hate to admit the truth, even people around find it difficult to help. It is well, slowly though we will conquer and start enjoying life once again. God bless.

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    2. congrats tola. nigerians see depression as an impossibility or a taboo, unfortunately, so many people are living with it not only because of their weight but other issues. i'm glad you have risen above yours. Ada

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  6. Dearest Cheliz, I am really proud of you. The way you are even committed to others losing weight is so overwhelming, you do it with so much passion as If we are paying you for it.
    God bless you Dear, you are a source of inspiration to us. MissB

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    1. Thanks MissB. It is the Lord's doing o. Lol. God bless you too darling.

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  7. Wow Cheliz ur really a testimony. ..am so happy for u nd I am gonna work hard to be like u.
    Btw I just saw ur post yesterday about losing baby fat...appreciate it
    Thanx a bunch dear!! Kip up d gud work.

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    1. Ammy! Thanks a bunch!!! How far with that our agreement na? Hope you are still on it. The Lord is your strength my dear. I know you will do well to get back in shape. Cheers luv.

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    2. Hehe about our agreement, am really trying my best dear. Nd its working cos I haven't felt dat pain again nd my body feels good..thanks

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  8. Hi, I just found your blog, and you are amazing. And I disagree, it is not God but it's you who made it happen :). (Sorry, atheist talking here).
    Keep it up and give a lot of strength and hope to others who are struggling with their weight - like myself - I am running and trying to eat healthy and already see the change. A very, very slow change.

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    1. Afromagyar ooo!! Hmmm. Thanks so much, i appreciate. Slow and steady, will get you to your goal soon. All the best and I hope to hear from you again. Thanks again.

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  9. Is clean 9 good ... a friend is taking it and i told her i will ask you

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    1. Hi. I havent used that product, although people tell me it worked for them. But please before you start it, ask some questions like: What follows afterwards? Is it sustainable? How long will you use it? Cheers.

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    2. yea, i've also seen the product. a friend of mine is a marketer and she told me its 25k. wow, with my small salary i could not afford it and decided to do my own thing like cheliz teaches. eat clean and workout. i have lost 7 whooping kgs on my own.
      even if it makes you lose the weight, will it be a long term thing or every 9 days, u'll be drinking clean 9?
      please tell your friend that after using it, she should eat clean and workout or she may just gain the weight back.
      a more effective and gradual lifestyle change is always better on the long run.

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  10. your story never ceases to inspire me. i'm not even married yet but i can tell my weight depressed me. at 24, i weighed up to 80kg when i used to be slim like a model back in uni. chai! i took a lot of work and determination and is still taking more work and determination. i'm 25 now and i weigh 72.6kg, i am determined to go down to 68kg. even friends who yabbed me when i started working out now commend my weight loss. my boss' wife had to speak out, she was so surprised!
    my own problem is foooood! i need deliverance from the love of food cuz i am not going back oo. forward ever! thanks so much cheliz. Ada

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    1. Lol! Food ehh!! I am proud of you dear, keep working towards your goal, stand tall while others watch you rise. By the time you get married and have kids, getting your post baby body back will be a piece of cake. This is a life long lesson. Thanks a lot dearie, God bless.

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    2. Lol@ Ada .... Well d gud thg is dt Cheliz diet plan doesnt stop u frm eating , jus av to eat d healthy stuff we ignore n exercise, u'll be fine.

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  11. Mz. Cheliz, I believe in your ministry o! God will continue to bless you, and thanks for being a blessing to me. As I shared with you, before I started this journey in June, I was bogged down by so many issues. I stopped talking to friends, because I could not keep up with the pretense of acting like everything was ok, and being happy for others when I was feeling turmoil every day. Going to church even made me depressed because I felt like what is the point. The people around me could see I was unhappy, and no matter what my hubby did, I was still in a funk. But I bless the day I stumbled onto your blog via a comment you left on BN. The amazing thing is that all the issues are still the same, but I am a happier person. The only thing crossed off my list is that I have lost weight. At first it didn't seem like a big deal, I took it as just a physical thing. However, the slow process has transformed me physically and mentally. My attitude has changed, and my faith has gotten stronger. I no longer fret about the issues that use to overwhelm me, and I'm in a better place. So thanks again for all you do, and may God continue to strengthen you to keep doing it.
    Pat

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    1. Awww, Pat Pat!! I am truly humbled. But you know its God, people like you and everyone that reads daily that make me keep doing this. Thank you too from the bottom of my heart and i keep praying that God fulfills your heart's desires. I will wait patiently with you till He does, because i know HE will. Keep up the sexy body dear. God bless.

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  12. WOW
    ITS REALLY A PROCESS
    GOD BLESS U
    MISSY O.

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  13. I deserve foto credit ooooooo.... Yea dts ma hawt friend turning heads at d wedding last weekend. Sum1 still asked me dt hw did u do it earlier today.... U look fab mi dear., mwaaah!

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    1. Oh no!!! Lala! Didn't you see the speed i used to add ur name there? Lol. Thanks a bunch darling! *Big Hug*!

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  14. Wow, you are indeed an all rounder - a fitness trainer and life coach combined. I went through this phase too and it was by Gods grace I overcame, especially when friends around me didn't seem to understand what I was going thru. I sincerely appreciate all you do, you have been a blessing in so many ways. God bless you richly. Titi

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    1. Lol @ all rounder! Titi!!! Ok i receive it! Awww, thank God for His grace on your life. I sincerely pray that more people open up, it would definitely save many lives. Thanks sweet. God bless.

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  15. @Ada same with Me oh. I am 24 going on 25 and not married I weighed 82kg and I always worry about my weight and I don't wear sleeveless tops because of my big arms. I became So insecure about my weight I hated looking at the mirror. But every since I stumbled on cheliz blog I became I better person. She has made working out and losing weight look So easy. I have been working out and I have lost 3kg I now weigh 79kg as against 82kg to Me its a remarkable achievement! And there is no stopping for Me till I reach my desired weight goal oh! Even my fiance is marvelled I must reach my desired weight before my wedding next year!
    Cheliz I am So grateful that God has sent you to us! Thanks for sharing your story. You have just inspired Me more. I love you dear.

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    1. Thanks So much dear, i love you too! With discipline and hard work, you will definitely get to your weight goal before your wedding. Stay strong! God bless you.

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